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August 7, 2009

Summit 8-Heath Brothers interview w/Craig Groeschel

Filed under: Blogging,Books,Church,Communication,God,Gospel,Leadership,Mission — Marty Duren @ 2:25 pm

3:25ish PM

Chip and Dan Heath are authors of Made to Stick and the upcoming Switch the latter of which is the subject of the interview.

Change is not always unwanted; having kids brings great change, getting married brings great change. Change is filled with conflict. Part of us wants to diet, part of us wants a cookie. Part of us sees the need and wants to change, part of us wants to keep the status quo.

There are two systems in our brain that can be pictured by a human rider on top of a 6 ton elephant. To make progress, there has to be an agreement between the goals of the rider and the goals of the elephant. The short term goal of the elephant has to be utilized by the long term goal of the rider in order for their to be success (at least I think that’s how the illustration went).

In a time of change, look for the one or two things that are working and study them and then clone them. It proves that something is successful. The bright spots are proof that the church can solve its problems.

1. There is a clear asymmetry between the size of the problem and the size of the solution. The small solution comes into play when the elephant sees what it can do, “Let’s go to the next village,” rather than what the rider wants to do, “We need to go two hundred miles.” (I’m having to expand some thoughts to compensate for some very brief sentences the Heaths are using.)

2. Shrink the change.

When change occurs there is usually a predictable pattern.

Summit 5-Dave Gibbons

Filed under: Blogging,Church,Communication,Culture,God,Gospel,Leadership,Mission — Marty Duren @ 9:18 am

Mom is 5′ foot Korean, Dad is Irish-American with blue eyes. “Koreans have strong genes!” (He looks thoroughly Asian.)

10:17 AM

Who is my neighbor? We exegete it one way, but live it another.

McGavran’s homogeneous principle has caused us to grow great churches, but consumeristic churches. What has God called us to? To be contrarian, to be abnormal

God is calling us to follow the path of the third culture leader.

Adaptation
Painful adaptation
There was a sentence here, it didn’t say on the screen.

It’s normal for us to love someone like us, but the world will stop and pay attention when we love those who are not like us.

How do we become third culture leaders?

The third culture leaders is focused on the misfit more than the masses. Margins lead movements. To really make a change, hang with the early adopters. This is where the change makers are. The masses do not lead us, the fringe does.

Who is the outsider? Jesus movement was from the fringe. What hinders us from loving on the fringe?

The third culture leader has a different set of metrics? Failure is success to God. The pain that we are now going through is our platform to humanity. It give us the quality to connect to this generation. Our failure and weaknesses are gifts from God to give us success. The world does not understand America’s success, but they do understand our pain.

Look at human resources, rather than financial resources. Who is in my congregation who wished they were being seen?

10:28
How do we quantify vision?
Isn’t the vision basically love God and love your neighbor? Relationships trump vision. We don’t need more visionaries, but more “relationaries.”

We need to stop wearing Saul’s armor. We need to change priorities. 70%-30%–What is going to be the 70%? What is 70% is leadership development? Gibbons spends 5-8 hours on weekend preparation and the rest of the time he is spending time leaders and relationship development.

Discipleship is a commitment to life on life. His front door, at home, is open always to anyone from his church who wants to stop by and spend time.

Allows the multi-sites to bring their own vision.

The third culture leader understands obedience. Obedience is more important than passion. It is more important to obey God than to be passionate about _______.

Four Acts of Obedience
1. Deeper collaboration
Perhaps he refers to the city and churches working together.
2. Communal living
Choose a neighborhood and have several families move in to it.
3. Prayer
The church does not believe in the Holy Spirit. If we really believe in the power that raised Jesus from the dead, we’d pray.
4. Radical sacrifice

August 6, 2009

Summit 4-Tim Keller

Filed under: Blogging,Church,Communication,God,Gospel,Leadership,Mission — Marty Duren @ 2:41 pm

3:30-Tim Keller

Lack of spiritual vitality is still the main problem in churches today. Any solution cannot be too programmatic, but also not too vague.

Diagnosis and Treatment
“Prodigal” means recklessly extravagant (prodigy, prodigious). Prodigal love for the prodigal son.

He makes the case that the parable is not about the younger brother, but the older. The context is Jesus’ dealing with the Pharisees. The younger brother is like the sinners around Jesus; the elder brother, who stays home with the father, is about the religious people around Jesus. The parable even ends with the older brother.

The main point shows that both older and younger brothers are both alienated from the father’s heart, in both cases both are lost and the father has to go get them, the younger only wants the father’s money (he doesn’t love him). But the elder brother does not love the father either; he’s only concerned about how the estate is being used. Both want the money. The younger brother tries to get it by being very bad; the elder tries to get it by being very good. “I’ve never disobeyed you,” he claimed. The brothers both tried to get the father’s things by their behavior.

For the elder brother, Jesus might be the example or helper, but not his Savior and Lord, because the elder is trying to be his own savior and lord. “Look I stayed home,” he said. Underneath, there is no difference between the two. Both are alienated. The elder brother never comes in to the feast (salvation). The bad boy is saved and the good boy is lost. The good boy is lost, not in spite of his goodness, but because of his goodness.

Religion operates on this principle: I obey, therefore, I am accepted. The gospel is exactly the opposite. Two people, both operating on opposite principles, will sit beside each other in church. Elder brothers are making God a means to an end.

3:42
The source of spiritual deadness: Elder brothers, are trying to get leverage over God because of how they are trying to live; they are judgmental, yet insecure, but their standing with God is based on their performance. As a result, there is no fruit of the Spirit, but, instead, selfishness, pride and backbiting.

Elder brothers get incredibly angry when their lives do not go well. Not just sad, but furious. What does this show? They believe God owes them. They say they believe the gospel, but they really don’t.

When elder brothers face criticism, they either respond with vicious criticism or simply wither. They either meltdown or melt down the criticizer.

Elder brothers pray, but they are petitionary prayers. When things are going bad, there are a lot of prayers. When things are going good, there are few if any.

Elder brothers are often loathing of others. If your self-image is based on having right doctrine (not on what that doctrine is about) you’ll will loath anyone who disagrees with you.

Elder brothers cannot forgive. You cannot stay angry and bitter at somebody unless you feel you are superior to them. “I would never do that.” Holding grudges forever is another symptom of elderbrotherness.

Repentance is being sorry for wrongdoings. When Pharisees broke the law, they repented, but they were still Pharisees. Even their repentance became a means of gaining leverage on God. Repentance is not just about being sorry for sin; it is being sorry for the wrong reasons of our right doing.

Genuine repentance will help us break through to a new level of rejoicing.

What did it cost to bring back the younger son?
Nothing? A ring and some party items?

The father had divided his estate and divided it in half; all of that money was gone. All that was left was that which belonged to the elder brother. The elder brother did not care for his younger brother. He should have gone to find his brother while he was gone from home.

It is true that the father can only bring us home at the expense of our true older brother. The only reason we can put the Father’s robe is because our true older brother was stripped naked on the cross. The only reason we can drink the Father’s festal cup is because our true older brother drank the cup of sin for us. Everything that we receive from the Father is at the expense of our true older brother.

Five Basic Ideas on Deeper Repentance and Renewal

1. The leader must work this into one’s heart.
Spiritual deadness is bound up in “performance.” It is elderbrotherness.

2. If a preacher/teacher, communicate beyond biblical principles to the gospel.
To the degree that you see you have true spiritual riches in Christ, you’ll quit trusting in it and it will just become money. I have to take them to the cross again. Don’t teach or preach anything without bringing it to the gospel.

3. Get a group of leaders together, take them through a book like “The Prodigal God.” Don’t work it like a class. Let them see it through me.

4. Get it through the church.
Use either small groups, or throughout the church.

Missed #5 somehow.

Summit 2-Hiring, Firing and Board Meltdowns

Filed under: Blogging,Church,Communication,God,Gospel,Leadership,Mission — Marty Duren @ 11:02 am

NoonA round table discussion with Hybels, Henry Cloud, Patrick Lencioni, Carly Fiorina, David Ireland.

This was taped for our viewing, partially due to Carly Fiorina having cancer. (She has accepted Christ in the mean time and is growing in Christ.)

Hiring

When hiring, the thing churches tend to focus on is, “Do they love Jesus?” without finding out whether the person is a fit for the church culture, ie, the chemistry.

Whatever the need, we tent to idealize the person who can fill the need and overlook any flaws.

Fiorina- “Trusting your gut is ok, after you’ve obtained the facts.”

When hiring, spend more time than with an interview. Go riding with them in a car, go to a store, get into a place where you can view responses. Take the time to have a substantive conversation.

How will the person be linked into our organization?

Don’t just ask questions and get answers; ask specific questions about their answers. Ask open ended questions: Tell me about yourself.

Look around here (the workplace). This is what it’s like here. If you like this (our culture), then you’ll like it here. If not, then you want. There can be a lot of self-deselection.

The process will do its work if we don’t jettison the process to meet some perceived need. Hybels- “Every time we’ve rushed to get a person in a chair, we’ve failed.”

Boards
Board (pastoral, elder, deacon, secular) must have a set of values that guides their behaviors. Don’t invite an outsider without letting the board know in advance, ie, no outsiders at the family gathering.

Retreats allow people to discuss their weaknesses, goals, problems and strengths. It gets the board ready for the board meeting.

Board meetings are usually ineffective when the wrong people are on the board. Can the person move the ship forward? If not, then the person does not need to be on the board.

There should be “term-limits” for board members.

A board does not have to be large to be effective. Fifteen or more becomes unmanageable. You cannot have a board so large that the “team dynamic” is lost.

A plurality of Godly leaders will more often do better than a single man (or woman) who holds all the cards.

Firing
People consider it compassionate to be dishonest with people. It is not compassionate. What is needed is candor. A firing should not be a surprise.

When you are talking to people consistently, they will either improve or leave. If one of those does not happen then a firing might be necessary, but it will not be a surprise.

First, retrain them. Second, after that, if it is still not working, then reassign. Third, remove. In small organizations, there must be constant reminding: “This just isn’t working.”

Review twice a year-A, B or C. This is where you are (“C” for instance) and this is how you can get to a “B.” It needs to be clear. Even then, though, there must be the tough conversations. The system will never replace conversation. “The kindest form of mangagement is the truth.” Jack Welch

Live Blogging the Willow Creek Leadership Summit

Filed under: Blogging,Church,Communication,God,Gospel,Leadership,Mission — Marty Duren @ 9:11 am

As long as the wi-fi allows.

10:05 AM– Freaking amazing opening video and music sequence.

10:30ish–Bill Hybels, Leading in a New Reality

Part of a captain’s preparation for a trip is checking for projected wave heights. 3 feet is not a problem; nine feet requires a decision about making the trip. Nobody wants to take to the sea when there is the possibility of a “rogue waves,” as high as eighty feet.

Churches have been broadsided by an economic rogue wave which have placed us in a situation where it is difficult to chart a course for the future.

Hybels is not sure if we are going to experience the old “normal” anytime soon, maybe ever.

10:37
Most who have the leadership gift are energized by these uncharted waters. Non-leaders suspect crack-cocaine.

Rough patches force new levels of courage and creativity. Calm seas do not force this type of behavior. A God anointed leader often hears the hint of the Holy Spirit clearly during these times.

Four Lessons Learned

Philosophical
October of 2008, in the middle of a series on “Influence.” Hundreds of Willow folks lost their jobs. Many, many phone calls of people needing help. One member, who regularly gave $200-300k for a Christmas gift, called to say he was not able to give at all and was possibly losing even his home.

The leadership team at Willow decided to change gears and focus on being an Acts 2 church including praying about selling property, stuff, etc to meet each others’ needs.

10:45
Hybles said to those adversely affected:
“Will those of you who have lost your jobs humble yourselves to ask for the help you need? Will you let the church be the church for you?”

He said to those who have not been affected.
“Step up to the plate and provide for those in need.” It resulted in God working greatly in their generosity to each other.

Hybels and the creative team reconfigured the way that services are started and ended. It includes allowing people to stay for as long as needed to allow the praise team to sing over those who are hurting for as long as they will stay.

Financial
Kingdom economics. The math makes no sense from a human perspective. In a downturn, revenue goes down but needs for revenue goes up. Willow is using multiple models for financial forecasting. (Luke 14, stewardship). If you lose track of the finances of ministry, you can ruin a ministry.

It is important to have cash reserves. Healthy cash reserves gives leaders what leaders need in times of crisis: time. Time to make the important decisions. Cash gives time. It is not about money; it’s about time. What percentage of annual revenue should be used for operating cash and what should be held in cash reserves.

Sr. Pastors are very bold when talking to individuals about their personal money management (“Make sure you have 6 months of salary in reserves.”), but churches have no policy of surviving an economic storm.

Questions to ask: What would we quit if revenue dropped 50%? 75%? What would we never, ever quit doing even if we had to work nights to keep it going? This sets our priorities.

Relational
Habakkuk 3:2- God do something in our day!

Are we hiring the best, most passionate, rightly gifted people to serve on our staff? How many actually critically positions (“key seat”) are there in our organization? What percentage of those are filled with the right people? What is our plan for filling those seats with the right people? What is our plan for training and preparing the people who will fill those seats? (So that nothing is lost if someone leaves.)

Personal
All the extra work that we are taking on might actually be the new reality.

Hybels notes that he could not keep that up. Kids expressing concern about his pace. “The pace at which I’m doing the work of God is destroying God’s work in me.” Hybels’ journal entry from 20 years ago.

He recently admitted that he was falling back into a depleted condition. Romans 8:6- Life and peace

Plan negligence strategy. Who do I need to be around because it replenishes me and who do I need to avoid because it drains me?

Doubled the number of miles running, narrowed diet, taken more time off.

The single greatest change involves how he starts his day. Get to the office at 6:30 and begin (“Speed of the leader sets the speed of the team.”) In rogue wave situations, the temptation is to answer every email, stop exercising, have every meeting, stop eating right, etc. Instead of coming to the office early, he’s now working early from home.

He reads the Bible @ home rather than at the office. Absorb it and absorb it slowly. Listen and listen slowly. When we listen slowly, God speaks more clearly. Now heads into the office around 9:00. Not suggesting mimicry of what he’s just reference, but the best thing we bring to the table is a filled bucket and a heart that is right with God and overflowing with optimism and grace everyone around us benefits. Whatever routine has to be shaken to get back to the “full bucket,” we have to pay the price.

What are our followers and colleagues see when they look at us these day?

June 15, 2009

Pastor, Heal thyself, Part the first: And God rested.

Filed under: Church,Family,God,Gospel,Life,Missional — Tags: , , — Marty Duren @ 9:37 am

Rick Biesiadecki is a good friend. I met him in Georgia prior to his move to Missouri to work at the state Baptist convention. He hinted at a series of posts having to do with pastoral life. This series will be loosely based on the points of this post.

Most pastors know that God rested on the Sabbath and that man was commanded to do the same, yet somehow we find ourselves running, like a hamster on a wheel, going and going and going, but, unlike our coal-eyed, whiskered friends, rarely stopping for water or a nap in the cedar shavings. This post is to encourage you to rest.

God knew what He was doing. Every seven days, there should be one filled with, well, thoughts of Him, attention to Him and not much else. Heck, in God’s economy even the land got an entire year’s rest every seven years! Unfortunately, in our “success by the numbers” society any amount of rest tends to be correlated with laziness. This should not be so.

There are a significant number of pastors who are just as workaholic as other people are alcoholic and both are deadly. Both kill relationships, sensitivity, passion, and ability to function well. Not to mention longevity. I recently visited with man who’s Dad had passed away at an early age. The son spoke of his Dad’s drive and overwork saying, “Marty, my Dad thought the Marines were too slow.” Not good.

So, will little fanfare, here are a few suggestions to help pastors get the rest that they need.

1. Admit to yourself that the continuing existence of neither the kingdom of God nor your church are dependent on you. I know pastors who carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, feeling that if a single opportunity for ministry is lost that in some cosmic way God has been let down. This is simply not the case. The kingdom existed before us and will continue in power after our earthly sojourn is over.

While Jesus did affirm that the gates of Hell would never prevail against the church, this was not a promise of the eternality of each local assembly. Even if, perhaps especially if, you are a church planter success does not lie on you alone. A worked-to-death church planter is hardly a benefit for the kingdom or his church. Fatigue, born from fear of failure, has caused many pastors to neglect their homes, fall into sin or suffer physical problems and even death.

Pastor, it does not depend on you. Get some rest.

2. Learn the rhythm of your own body and work from it. Some people are early risers and some people are night owls. A few have their body change in mid-life. Some people need 10 hours sleep, some eight and some only four or five. I’m personally an early riser and need 7-8 hours normally to function on any level close to humanness. But I also know that I have a 2:00 afternoon run down almost each day, nodding at my desk with eyelids at half-mast. Hardly productive, but I’ve learned that no amount of guilt over that mid-afternoon slowdown causes me to have more energy. Sometimes I can do a few rounds of push-ups in the office floor and get a burst of energy, but other times I just need a nap.

My Dad should be in the Guinness Book of World Records for napping. The man can fall asleep and be rattling the windows in no time flat (but it usually follows a hearty lunch). Even when he worked for Ford and could not take a nap at work, it was the first thing he did when he got home. My Dad worked night shift when I was a kid and I remember him taking a shower to get ready for church, going and singing in the choir wearing sunglasses so he could sleep sitting up during the sermon…in the choir loft. I don’t think most people ever knew.

Other than the sleeping in church part (though, admittedly, some of my sermons can have that affect on me, too), I’ve inherited that particular rhythm. I function better if I have a nap several days a week. Sometimes I put the office phone on do not disturb, put my feet up on the desk, set my phone alarm and sleep for 10-20 minutes. On days when I can’t catch a nap in the office I take one when I get home. On the whole, sleep when you need to as much as you need to. If you find yourself needing inordinate amounts of sleep, go to the doctor or check your exercise or diet.

Pastor, get some sleep.

3. Try to orient your office schedule around your body rhythms. This can be difficult sometimes, but is great if you can make it happen. Many times it is a matter of simple communication as to why you don’t keep normal 9:00-5:00 office hours. If you are an early riser and dread the afternoon doldrums sitting behind your desk, then come in at 7:00 and leave at 3:00. Do studying and other individual stuff before the office opens, schedule appointments when you are still alert and return phone calls after lunch.

Don’t have evening meetings unless it is necessary to meet the availability of someone who works 8:00-5:00, but use every possible lunch engagement to avoid having late meetings. Reserve your evenings for yourself and/or your family.

If you are a night person, try to do all of your people interacting during office hours and save your study time until everyone else is asleep. Come to the office at 10:00 and stay until 5:00. Simply try to configure your day, as much as it is within your power, to play to the norms of your bio-rhythm.

Pastor, know thyself.

4. Exercise and eat right. An entire post will address this.

Pastor, put down that fried chicken leg.

5. Work from your strengths and giftedness. Pastors will always have to do things that are “busy work,” since ministry involves interacting with others, but you will drain yourself dry if you are continually being loaded with things that you are areas of weakness. Behavioral experts tell us that we actually are energized when we are living according to our own personality (introverted vs extroverted, for example). When circumstances force us to behave differently than we are wired we can quickly grow frustrated or fatigued.

While life does not afford us the luxury of always being able to dictate this, learn to design your life and ministry from your natural strengths and your spiritual gifts; this is the way that God has designed you to operate, so work with Him on it. I do not have the time to go into all the facets of leadership development that can affect this, but determine to move in a direction so that you begin to intentionally work from how God has created you.

Pastor, be who God created.

While certainly not an exhaustive (sorry) list, these things will help you to live in a more restful state, avoiding the fatigue that leads many to failure.

June 10, 2009

The Great Commission Resurgence

A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, I regularly blogged about matters relating to the Southern Baptist Convention. After a couple of years of such writing, I retired from it and began to blog about other matters. I’m writing this particular post as a couple of friends, for whom I have great respect, have asked me to weigh in with a few thoughts on the proposed Great Commission Resurgence (GCR) in the Southern Baptist Convention. I’m not returning to the fray.

Though some, perhaps many, will take my writing as negative, it is only how things are viewed from my seat. I hope against hope for nothing but success for all those who are involved in this attempt and would be happy to be proven wrong.

Beginning at least as early as Dr. Jimmy Draper’s Younger Leader Initiative in the SBC, calls for major institutional, structural and Cooperative Program reform have been a part of conversation from the fringes to the center of SBC life and leadership. The Younger Leader discussion board that went online just before Thanksgiving of 2004 (now defunct) was flooded with concerns about the wastefulness of the current denominational structure and suggestions on how to address those issues. Those younger leaders ultimately divided into at least three branches: those who continued their path out of the convention, those who tried a concerted effort (ie, political) to effect change (I was here) and those who more or less eschewed the politics to focus on bringing change via their local churches. This is a simplification, I’m aware, but I think it holds up well enough for this post.

After two years of blogging multiple times a week and gaining insight into the mechanics, politics and personalities of the SBC, I came to the conclusion that attempt at denominational reform were hopeless and efforts to bring it about were futile, bordering on bad time management. (One can read those posts here, here, here and here. Independent of my own writing, Michael Spencer came to very similar conclusions regarding the collapse of evangelicalism Part 1 and Part 2.)

Recently Dr. Danny Akin of Southeastern Seminary issued a call for denominational reform under the name Great Commission Resurgence which term has been credited with coinage by Dr. Thom Rainer, president of Lifeway Christian Resources. This original 13 point message was distilled into ten points and promoted by current SBC president, Dr. Johnny Hunt, who, as I understand it, intends to make it a focus of the 2009 Convention in Louisville. As of this writing, the document boasts 3,346 signatures, which is less than the annual attendance of the SBC and .0002% of the claimed 16M SBC membership, but, to be fair, substantially more than movements of the recent past have garnered (ie, The Memphis Declaration and the Joshua Convergence).

Responses to the GCR document have been, shall we say, wildly varied. Shortly after Danny Akin’s message, Baptist Press published a subtle rebuttel from the normally far afield Dr. Malcolm Yarnell who did not disappoint. Dr. Hunt has taken flack for proposing such a thing as the GCR, accusations about base motives are swimming just under the surface. A document attempting to call the SBC back to a focus on the Great Commission has not been signed by 75% of the Executive Directors of state conventions/fellowships, who, ostensibly, are for the Great Commission, and there is suspicion within the ranks over who would be the president of a potentially combined IMB/NAMB mission agency. With the less than stellar performance of late at NAMB and the perennial candidacy of the SBTC’s Jim Richards, I do not know that much trust would be engendered by a search team, assurances of “God’s will being done” notwithstanding.

My thoughts are few and, sadly, are little changed from the thoughts that led to me abandon any hope of a true change in the SBC from a vestige of a nostalgic past to a rebirth as a missional powerhouse. Nevertheless, here are a few for what they are worth.

1. The SBC has ADHD. EKG, GPS, GCR. The SBC sounds like alphabet soup or the federal government. There is scarcely enough time to promote one program or idea before it makes way for the next one, none of which catch hold. There are programs that emanate from different offices and different entities (The Net and F.A.I.T.H. for example) giving the impression that some entities are actually in competition with each other. This is not even to get into different promotions within given states that alternately duplicate or ignore national movements (Promise Keepers becomes Legacy Builders in the GBC).

2. There is too much turfism. The local association, the state convention and the national convention are often at odds with each other over who is to do what, when and where. State evangelism offices and directors are at odds with NAMB. The entities are concerned about money and who’s getting it. For years at least one of the seminary presidents has been pushing hard for a “seminary offering” to be observed in the convention’s churches, but has been rebuffed. The states balk at the idea of sending a greater percentage of funds to X-Comm, though the IMB is now unable to send M’s who are currently trained and ready. Much of this is related to denominational protectionism or fiefdoms that must be protected at all costs, even kingdom costs.

3. The SBC’s greatest strength, autonomy, has become its greatest weakness. Since each level makes it’s own decisions independently of the other levels (though each claims to be the servant of the churches), there is not enough cooperation and often redundancy. When Dr. Akin mentioned “bloated bureaucracy” he was met with cries of “foul” from other areas. No one thinks that their own area is bloated only that others are. For that reason, as some have noted, passing a resolution on this document means little since the states and not obligated to do anything as a result (Others have noted that restructuring will not bring revival). Even if a study committee returns and makes recommendations for streamlining, each individual state would have to act independently and would be loath to do so for fear of another state keeping or receiving more CP money.

4. There is not enough trust. Everything that I learned in two years keeps me believing that there is ample reason for this, but this is a terrible situation. Adult men and women all of whom are assumed to be maturing Christians, but cannot trust that there are no agendas other than a kingdom agenda. There is not even trust on the upper levels of leadership; how is there going to be trust down the line? Anyone who has read Patrick Lencioni’s Five Dysfunctions of a Team knows that trust is foundational to effectiveness.

5. There are too many viable options for education, fellowship and mission. Southern Baptists no longer need an SBC education. The proliferation of online education has made it possible to have more (and sometimes cheaper) alternatives. Not being forced to move in order to attend seminary may be a bane to the schools, but it is a blessing to the students. Not only that, but currently I’m in a degree program that is not offered by SBC seminaries and is a less expensive option even counting CP subsidies.

Networks such as Acts 29 and Glocal with discussions like ChurchAsMissionary have made it possible to have meaningful partnerships outside rigid SBC structures and, in many cases, individual churches provide more church plant money than all levels of the denomination combined. Fellowship is as readily attained in online communities and impromptu phone calls than at the Monday Morning Pastors Conference at Shoney’s.

6. God does not need the SBC. At least one SBCer, Jedediah Coppenger, has written a lament about the drop in Cooperative Program funds relating to international missions asking if the Great Commission is filing for bankruptcy. While I appreciate the concern, I cannot join the chorus of despair because I do not think that God is dependent on the SBC. Was there no fulfillment of the Great Commission before the founding of the Southern Baptist Convention? If not, how did the gospel get to our ancestors? Was the modern missions movement founded in Nashville? Did Adonirum Judson go through the International Learning Center?

A few years ago I sat in a room with 20 or so other men and ladies and we discussed the future of the SBC. My primary contribution to the conversation was this: “If we are not prepared to admit that God may be envisioning a future without the SBC, then we are not prepared to envision a future with it.” That is, the SBC must be willing to at least seriously and thoughtfully consider that God is done with the SBC before serious thought can be given to a potential future. Otherwise we think and act from a position of triumphalism–that God needs us to fulfill His plans, when, in fact, He does not.

7. There is more concern about job security than about soul salvation. Every time someone mentions b’cracy, downsizing, and streamlining, someone usually brings up the fact that people will lose their jobs. So? And? I see a commission in the Word to take the gospel to all the world, but see nothing about denominational job creation. This particular concern should never enter the discussion. It simply is not relevant to the mission. Glorifying God by getting the gospel to those who have not heard is the mission; everything about the SBC should flow from and into that.

8. There is no compelling vision. Still.

9. We do not need a Great Denominational Resurgence. In case you spend all of your time inside the SBC beltway, the GCR has already been pegged as such by some outside your circles and a few in them. I just don’t know anyone who is crying themselves to sleep at night because of the SBC. Over the condition of our world? Yes. Over the lost? Yes. Over the denomination? No. Pastors are leading churches to be involved in the Great Commission. I know scads of them who have adopted unreached people groups, have partnered with M’s and nationals, have sent countless teams and planted churches all without denominational assistance. Why spend so much time and energy trying to change the saddle on a dying horse? Pastors and churches should recognize the efficiency and effectiveness of channels that exist outside the bureaucratic structures of denominations and exploit them to the fullest.

10. Any study team will likely have the wrong people on it. The order of thinking that could get the SBC out of this mess will of necessity be a different order of thinking than got the SBC into this mess and that “different order” kind of thinking will have to come from different people none of whom will be asked to serve. Why? Because they are on the fringe. The fringe is where creativity happens. Revolutionary thinking scares the status-quo which is why it gets pushed out to the fringe.

One SWBTS professor wrote that the SBC is led from the center. This might be true when there is consensus, but is decidedly not true about leading a revolution. Revolutions always begin at the fringe because the center is inhabited by the status quo. Imagine a study group filled with fringe dwellers who bring back a bunch of wild ideas about streamlining, combining, restructuring…stuff that will actually work. Then it gets beat half to death by a bunch of turf protectors, before being subjected to everyone in the blogosphere, then it finally limps into the annual meeting only to be suffer 20 lashes and then pass the votes of not one but two consecutive June meetings.

And while all that energy has been expended trying to change a denomination, the fringe dwellers are out changing the world.

June 8, 2009

Thoughts regarding fallen pastors

Filed under: Bible,Church,Culture,Devotional,Family,God,Gospel,Idolatry,Leadership,Life,Movies,Sex — Tags: , , — Marty Duren @ 3:02 pm

Saw it again last night: a pastor admits to committing adultery, repentant and broken, but out of the ministry nonetheless. I’m not sure that there is anything that weighs on me like hearing that news. This particular pastor led a dynamic church that has seen 100 people saved in the last three weeks, yet he still succumbed to the same temptation that has torn down the mightiest of warriors.

Having been married for more than twenty-five years and having been in the ministry for twenty (next month), I thought it would be appropriate to review some of the things that I think about when I hear such news. These are in no particular order, but should be considered well when desiring to avoid marital infidelity.

1. Get enough rest. Mental and emotional fatigue are open doors to bad decisions, even sinful ones. Many a man “burns the midnight oil” for the kingdom, or so it is supposed, only to find himself in the hotel room or church broom closet with a woman not his wife having lost the will power to say “no,” or even to think it. Pastors, you are not superhuman and while each of us need differing amounts of rest, listen to your body and rest when you need to do so. You cannot push the envelope of energy continually lest you run the risk of mental or physical adultery.

2. Stay true to the Word. This one should be obvious, but there will never come a time that we do not need the Word. Early in ministry we are afraid to even attempt to live without it, but often in later years coasting becomes the norm. “If I can just make it to retirement,” becomes the mantra for too many pastors who’ve long ago lost passion, but are trying to ride out the wave. Don’t become a hireling! The only way to remain a faithful shepherd is to be guided by the Word every step of the way.

3. Be careful. Don’t allow the thirst for adventure to cause you to become careless in how you relate to women. There will never be a time when flirting becomes acceptable or when lingering looks become godly. Internet filters or tracking software (X3 Watch or Covenant Eyes) may be necessary to keep your mind where it needs to be and out of the gutter. Have the TV removed from your hotel room if necessary or at least disconnected from the cable. When your wife says, “Stay away from [a particular woman],” then stay away from her. Somebody else can take her phone calls and do her counseling or she can go to another church.

4. Love your wife always and make love to her as often as possible. Make sure the passion that brought you to marriage does not get swept away in the busyness of life and ministry. When Paul instructed Timothy that a man who ignored the needs of his family is worse than an unbeliever, are we to believe that he was only talking about groceries?

Continue to pursue your wife as if you are still trying to convince her to marry you. Don’t take the attitude of Ward Cleaver: “What’s the use in chasing the bus after I’ve already caught it?” When your kids are young, get them accustomed to early bed times so that you and your wife can spend time together and when they are old, lock them out of the master bedroom for the same reason. Have date nights and don’t apologize or feel guilty.

Keep sex on the leading edge of your marriage. I think we’d be shocked at how many pastor’s wives go to bed with a book because their husband wants to debate online whether or not sex is “gospel-centered.” I think marital sex is God-given, God-blessed and God-expected. Paul wrote to the Corinthians couples that they should only abstain in times of prayer and fasting “with consent” and then resume their normal activity so that Satan did not find a way to tempt them due to a lack of self-control-a lack of self-control that resulted from a lack of sex. I hardly think that once-a-month passion is what he had in mind. Regular sex with one’s spouse is self-control.

If you are a pastor, teacher or evangelist and you travel so much that you have to reintroduce yourself to your wife and children each time you return home and you have such infrequent sex that you have to get the manual out each time, then you are living in a state of foolishness that borders on outright sin before God. Did you miss the part about being tempted for self-control? It amazes me how many guys would pass up a woman in need (with a broken down car, for example) for afraid of “causing a brother to stumble,” but cause their wives to stumble regularly due to the lack of attention and affection shown by her husband.

5. Live your heart. If you are in the middle of a career of ministry and come to the recognition that your passion is no longer for pastoring a local church, then change. A friend and I were discussing this very thing at lunch today. Guys get wiped out, lose their heart, lose their passion and then, it seems, it is easier to commit adultery than to get out. GET OUT OR GET HELP. One or the other. I’m aware that the Bible says, “The gifts and callings of God are without repentance,” but honestly, does that mean a specific job? I could go today and work at Chili’s and still fulfill my life’s calling.

If you find yourself in the midst of a career-crisis as a pastor and you, deep down, know that you’ve no more to give as a pastor, then plan an exit strategy and start following it. Read Wild at Heart if you haven’t already.

6. Do not let your church (or religious culture) force you into a way of ministry that destroys your ability to minister to yourself and your family. Every pastor is different in structure, personality and function. As soon as you understand how you function best (early morning, late night, mid-morning) you should organize your schedule around it, then communicate it to your church. If you need to be in the office from 6:00 AM until 2:00 PM, then come in early, leave and go fishing or to the gym or whatever. Or go home and help your wife with dinner; or cook dinner so she can go to the gym. Or vacuum the curtains…I understand that is the sexiest thing a husband can do.

If all of your local associational meetings are at night (y’know, when the wife and kids are home and help is needed) then skip them. I see no biblical admonition to attend, but I see multiple biblical admonitions about being a husband and father. As a pastor you are on call 24/7 and often are doing work related to ministry while at home or up early. Don’t feel guilty about calling another pastor and going to the movie after lunch. He needs it and so do you.

7. How about let’s dispense with all the “rock star” talk? John Piper wrote a book called, “Brothers, We are Not Professionals.” Perhaps someone should write one entitled, “Brothers, We are Not Rock-Stars.” Our current star persona promotion of good speakers, exceptional church planters and mega-church pastors borders on idolatry and calling people “rock star” or something similar does not help. In fact, what we have created and continue to promulgate makes mental or moral failure probable if not inevitable. Jesus said, “He that would be the greatest among you must be the servant of all.” When James and John’s mother wanted to know if her sons were going to be rock-stars in the kingdom, Jesus asked about their ability to endure suffering and sacrifice. I’m sure that ticket sales would drop dramatically if torture were the promoted result.

God has called us to one primary calling and that is to love Him with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength. This can be done from an office or Starbucks, from a house or a boat, from a seminary or an urban center. When we lose that simple focus, rather than following wherever and whenever it leads, then downfall becomes, all too often, the norm.

March 16, 2009

Community Partnering

Filed under: Church,Culture,God,Gospel,Missional — Tags: , , — Marty Duren @ 12:36 pm

An aspect of missional ministry that is of great importance is the willingness of the local church to find partners in the community that open bridges into that community over which the gospel of Christ will travel. While building networks with other churches is also important, the community is impacted in a different way when governments, schools and businesses find that churches are interested in helping these entities become successful in their own mission.

In 2007, our then Pastor of Worship, Dan Brothers, had a vision to take our annual Christmas production outside in partnership with a local resort area. It was a pretty big step for us as it required a pretty large number of volunteers, but went very well with a good attendance. In Christmas of 2008 we again partnered with this resort and, based on our first partnership, they gave us a better location and offered to help with assorted expenses. We also agreed to allow our stage and sound equipment to be used by other groups at times when we were not utilizing it.

Last week two of our pastors, Ronnie Cansler and Joey Jernigan, and another leader from our church met with the marketing and management groups from the resort in order to get a jump on Christmas for this year. Because of weather concerns in December our goal had been to utilize a tent to help in the event of rain and give us the option to provide heat to those who attend. When the resort learned of that possibility, they agreed to foot the cost for all of the weeks of use with the exception of the two weeks that we actually use the tent. In return, our stage (which we build on site, tear down and remove) can be used by various school groups who come to sing carols, etc. We provide audio and lighting volunteers.

We would have been content to have that agreement as it allows for tremendous influence in our community but there was more. This particular resort has campgrounds and a 1,500 seat amphitheater. The management has agreed to allow us to do VBS, Bible clubs, mission VBS, etc, pretty much anything that might be on interest to those who are camping. We can also utilize the amphitheater for a concert series or other special musical event. They’ve given us the option of giving any message as long as the participants have the option to leave at any time.

Why would they do this? First, because our partnership has been done with an eye toward excellence. Each year that our stage and decorating is taking place, it amazes the employees of the resort than so many people will do this as volunteers. Second, because it generates income for the resort. At Christmas we are included in their marketing plans. Campground ministry opps will be another promotion that they can utilize if they desire. Any concerts that we perform or host generate gate revenue that otherwise would not exist for them. Third, because they have become convinced that we really have their interest at heart and are not simply looking out for our own. In community partnerships this is a key.

In many communities churches are seen as self absorbed, self focused and disinterested in anyone not already interested in them. Any meaningful partnership will require that churches demonstrate extended, not passing, interest in the benefit of businesses and organizations already in the community. It is this extending of ministry outside the campus parameters that catches the attention of non-believers. Each and every time they ask the question, “Why?” is another opportunity to give a reason of the hope that is in us.

March 2, 2009

Recent Music and Sermon Series

Filed under: Church,Communication,Culture,Gospel,Missional,Music — Tags: , , — Marty Duren @ 9:47 am

I get the question occasionally about what, if any, secular music we do in our services. We have done a lot recently; here’s the list.

For our series on work entitled Take This Job and Shove It, we did the following:
Take This Job and Shove It, Johnny Paycheck
Bang on the Drum, Todd Rundgren
Sixteen Tons, Tennessee Ernie Ford
Taking Care of Business, BTO
Forty Hour Week, Alabama

For a sermon yesterday on baptism, we opened with:
Come Alive, Foo Fighters

Yes, we do an occasional lyric tweak as required. And, yes, our band is multi-talented.

We also introduced a song that’s a year or so old, but new to us. It’s called Our God Saves, by Paul Baloche. Simple but powerful; worth checking out.

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